1) Don’t chase anyone
Who wants to chase someone? You deserve better than that. You deserve someone who shows up for you just like you show up for them. If they make you play games, making you run after them to give you the smallest hint of attention, then they definitely aren’t worth it. Live your life and stop chasing, no matter how much you like them.
2) Don’t beg someone to stay!
When you love someone who no longer wants to be part of your life, it hurts like hell. There’s no sugarcoating it. I know it sounds harsh, but begging is degrading. An apology, telling him how you feel, or offering to change a bad habit should be enough if a person truly wants to stay. If it’s not, accept that the relationship is over. The moment you have to beg, it’s already over anyway.
3) Know your worth!
We’ve all been there — feeling victimized by a friend, a boss or a lover who has treated us poorly or unfairly. But if you start to look back and analyze a bit, you may realize that there is one common denominator in each scenario and situation. That common denominator is you. You allow people to treat you the way they do. Your energy, confidence and attitude is the currency that others will transact with.
Self-worth is how you value yourself. It’s not based on what others think of you or the things you have (or haven’t) accomplished—it comes from within.
“When you know who you are—and you’re pleased with the person you’ve become—you’ll experience a sense of peace through life’s inevitable ups and downs.”
– Amy Morin
4) Save space for people who matter
It means that we are willing to walk alongside another person in whatever journey they’re on without judging them, making them feel inadequate, trying to fix them, or trying to impact the outcome. When we save space for other people, we open our hearts, offer unconditional support, and let go of judgement and control.
5) Accept what cannot be changed
Your life is the sum result of all the choices you make, both consciously and unconsciously. If you can control the process of choosing, you can take control of all aspects of your life. You can find the freedom that comes from being in charge of yourself.
“Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune.” – William James
6) Leave what isn’t for you
At some point you have to stop peeking behind your shoulder and yearn for the things that are no longer yours. You have to accept the world that’s in front of you, not because you don’t have a choice, but because it makes moving on easier. It makes you more at peace with the life that you’re leading.
7) Love Yourself
Self-love means finding peace within ourselves — resting comfortably within the depths of our being. We might find temporary respite by doing something to nurture ourselves. But a deeper inner peace requires cultivating a certain way of being with ourselves — a warm and nurturing attitude toward what we experience inside.