Nobody cares about what you think you deserve.

The sooner you accept it, the sooner you can get past it. Because hiding underneath all that self-absorbed punkishness is a person who desperately needs you and will love you until the day they die — if you can actually help them.

Putting in more work than the others will do you no good. You will raise expectations and stress yourself out to meet the new standards you set for yourself.

That said, you could put in all the work you want and still not be acknowledged.

Stay away from your co-workers in your free time.

Avoid getting personal.

No one wants good for you, especially the people competing with you for money.

Friendship ends where the business begins.

Don’t suggest improving on dumbshit processes and procedures.

What if someone working with you put those in place?

Ask yourself if you really care enough to make a fuss about it.

If you are overloaded, it might be prudent to take examine exactly what you are working on.

Take a hard look at the tasks that consume your day.

Are you doing your job?

Or are you occupying your time with other’s work?

Learn to Say No – Saying “No” is a key skill in the workplace. Too often people are afraid of being perceived as negative or not being a team player. However, if you are unable to say “No,” you will soon find yourself drowning in all kinds of extra work that is not your own.

Chances are you will go into meetings to discuss meetings to discuss more meetings to discuss other meetings…. accept it.

Be Wary of the Master Delegators – There are some people in the workplace who have a degree in getting other people to do their work. You know who they are. Say “No” early, or better yet avoid them altogether. They will quickly figure out that you are not going to do their job and will seek out easier targets.

Don’t think you’re irreplaceable. Yes, you’re doing a great job. But everyone is replaceable. No one will remember your name about a week after you’re gone.

Don’t chase promotions and pay rises. Focus on minimizing your costs. No one can do you any harm with low costs and enough in savings.

Chasing money will not get you anywhere.

Seriously.

Clearly Define Your Domains – I am not in favor of formal job descriptions that list down to the last detail of what your responsibilities include. However, there is a different way. Define your domains and areas of responsibility. That way you will know when you are straying too far from your position.

It’s a dog-eat-dog society. There’s always a winner and always a loser.

When you are content with your personal life and have developed your own hobbies for a long time, you will not care about things that don’t matter.

In the grand scheme of things as long as you get the bare minimum done, you will be fine. Reduce all the stressors coming with corporate work. Stress is a toxin. It will kill you slowly if you do not choose your priorities.

Reduce all the stressors coming with corporate work.

Is there a way to maintain a steady focus throughout the day? Is it possible to do everything that needs to get done and still have energy left over after work? How do you keep cool under so many demands?

Identify the aspects of the situation you can control and aspects you can’t. Typically, you’re in control of your actions and responses, but not in control of macro forces or someone else’s tone, for example.

Most of us are bombarded during the day,

While you may not have control over the interrupters, you can control your response. responding in one of ways:

 Accept the interruption, cut it off, or diagnose its importance and make a plan.

Many interruptions are recurring and can be anticipated.

You want to have preset criteria for which response you want to make. You can also train those around you by answering email during certain windows, setting up office hours to talk in person or closing the door when you need to focus.

Thank you …Most of us go through the day using a “push, push, push” approach, thinking if we work the full eight to 10 hours, we’ll get more done. Instead, productivity goes down, stress levels go up and you have very little energy left over for your family.

Scheduling breaks throughout the day to walk, stretch at your desk or do a breathing exercise. “Tony Schwartz of the Energy Project has shown that if we have intense concentration for about 90 minutes, followed by a brief period of recovery, we can clear the buildup of stress and rejuvenate ourselves,”.

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When you feel frustrated or angry, it’s a heated feeling in your body that can cause you to react. Instead of immediately reacting—and likely overreacting—

“Cooling breath” technique: Breathe in through your mouth as if you are sipping through a straw, and then breathe out normally through your nose. Done right, you’ll feel a cooling, drying sensation over the top of your tongue. It’s like hitting the “pause” button, giving you time to think about your response. It’s so powerful it will even calm the other person down.



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Learn to stop self imposing stress by building your own self-confidence rather than seeking other’s approval.

If you’re too caught up in others’ perceptions of you, which you can’t control, you become stressed out by the minutia or participate in avoidance behaviors like procrastination.

 Ironically, once you shift your focus from others’ perception of your work to the work itself, you’re more likely to impress them.

Prioritize Your Priorities

With competing deadlines and fast-changing priorities, it’s critical to define what’s truly important and why.

That requires clarity.

It’s important to understand your role in the organization, the company’s strategic priorities, and your personal goals and strengths.

“Tony Schwartz of the Energy Project has shown that if we have intense concentration for about 90 minutes, followed by a brief period of recovery, we can clear the buildup of stress and rejuvenate ourselves,”.

A simple breathing trick that will knock you out fast: Cover your right nostril and breathe through your left for three to five minutes.

Instead of immediately reacting—and likely overreacting—”cooling breath” technique: Breathe in through your mouth as if you are sipping through a straw, and then breathe out normally through your nose.

Done right, you’ll feel a cooling, drying sensation over the top of your tongue. It’s like hitting the “pause” button, giving you time to think about your response .It’s so powerful it will even calm the other person down.

Identify Self-Imposed Stress

Building your own self-confidence rather than seeking other’s approval.

If you’re too caught up in others’ perceptions of you, which you can’t control, you become stressed out by the minutia or participate in avoidance behaviors like procrastination.

Ironically, once you shift your focus from others’ perception of your work to the work itself, you’re more likely to impress them.

Author: Dayal R.